This
chapter heading introduced several separate topics ... which are now
expanded into major sections of this web site.
The
original text began ...
Getting
your own thoughts into some sort of order
isn't easy without input from other sources. Since
1965 I've been in correspondence with people who admitted some sort
of instinctive attraction towards “tying-up games”.
Often I was the first person they had ever told about their "guilty
secret" ... whatever form it took.
Although coming
from a range of different backgrounds, isolated individuals wrote
to tell remarkably similar stories. What particular imagery enhanced
the situation for them, whether sexual or non-sexual, whatever style
of dramatic scenario, props and costumes decked out their fantasy
events ... their personal domestic / employment circumstances did
not permit them to even discuss these disturbing, recurring impulses.
Uncomfortably evasive letters hinted at interests which just would
not go away.
My growing awareness
of not only the isolation but the amazing diversity of related subject
matter encouraged me to place the following ad. in the magazines MAN'S
WORLD, GUNS & AMMO & POLICE REVIEW in 1978:
Rope,
strait-jackets, handcuffs, Houdini .
Did
I get your attention? - or am I alone in the world.
Correspondence
invited. BOX???
More than a trickle
of cautious responses asking what the hell I was talking about soon,
by a process of elimination, developed into a regular interchange
of confidences. The first reassurance I was able to offer was, not
to be overly concerned as to the WHY. It has always seemed to me more
practical to concentrate on the HOW to get into perspective some of
the spooky things something inside someone is telling them they might
enjoy!
The range of urgent
questions that came at me promised to turn my PO Box into a vale of
tears ... and I was more interested in exploring possibilities for
people to turn their anxieties into ‘safe and sane' fun and games,
rather than soul-searching. Some of my answers were a bit brutal;
I'm not cut out to be an Agony Aunt.
Because the focus
of this particular volume is physical restraint willingly walked into
and occasionally fought to stay out of (or fight somebody else into)
... the rest of this section of the book is composed entirely of short
extracts from letters, grouped under the following three headings:-
The text went
on to discuss how general correspondence about related interests,
when shared could benefit many other people.
Later this developed into the TALKING
& LISTENING project.
The following
two chapters of this book persued the same theme expanded to specific
interests such as strait-jackets, army-games and outdoor persuits
...
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